Funny email

My old roommate just sent me an email he got from a D.C. pal:

In a message dated 6/15/2004 2:00:48 PM Eastern Daylight Time, biged@urbanflavorz.com writes:

TC Tuesdays: Play Brother / Play Sista
tc@urbanflavorz.com

Fellas, have you ever walked up on your girl unexpectedly, and seen her all in some dudes face, laughing, smiling, and just having a good ol time? Then you walk up oh, her just knowing you have caught her doing something wrong, and she grabs you hugs you and introduces you to him? Ladies have you ever gone out with your girl, only to see your man sitting down chillin with another female? Then as your sitting down wondering how to handle the situation, he summons you over to where they are and says to you, "Hey baby, I want you to meet (insert name here)".

Well if either of these incidents have happened to you, then your significant other has a "play brother," or "play sister." Can you handle this phenomenon? The way you respond to this situation tells a lot about you, as well as where you stand in your relationship.

Fellas don't trust anybody. Many times it's because they have been doing their dirt already. But when their woman tells them that they have a strong bond with another male, it hits them in the ego, and sometimes it intimidates them. I'm not saying the dude intimidates them, but the friendship/closeness that his girl has with this other man is what makes them uneasy. Allow me to keep it regional for a sec: We all know that sometimes the phrase "Play brother" or "play sister" is just another way of saying, "We smashed, but we decided to just remain friends instead of trying to be with one another."
Unless this dude is a relentless hater and wears his feelings on his sleeve, then there is no way if you can tell if this dude is really your woman's friend or not. He might be that "d*ck in a glass case" that she keeps around just in case you mess up. Which brings me to my next point: Ladies and gentlemen, if you do not trust your partner, then the "play brother/sister" thing is going to be a disaster. This is why I said that the way you handle this tells a lot about your relationship.

We all have had friends of the opposite sex that we are cool with. When you get into
a relationship, you can either give your friends up completely, or inform your sig. other that you have these friends, have had them for a while, and that they aren't going anywhere. If they cannot accept that, then do you really want to be with them? It's your
call, but possessive signs like that usually lead to restraining orders later down the line.

Ladies, us men know how fragile our ego is. Do you? A woman can be perfectly fine with her man having his female friend or his "play sister," as long as she doesn't look better than she does. lol Let that play sister be phat to def and attractive; she'll turn her nose up to her without a second thought. That's not fair ladies. If your man has been her buddy for years and years, don't try to cut her out of his life because you feel threatened. That's where the shadiness starts right there, because females can sense jealousy, and as soon as they get a whiff on it, the pettiness and cattyness begins.

The bottom line is this; if you trust your partner, then you shouldn't have to give a second thought about there outside relationships. As long as you know how they roll, know who they are coming home to, all should be well. Because even if that play brother/sister does have the hots for your boo boo, you should trust that they'll do the right thing when or if that time ever comes. If you cant say that you do, then you need to second-guess either them for being shady, or yourself for having trust issues. Holla at y'all next week. Catch me in the club rockin to Fat Joe, "Lean back lean back lean back lean back"........my bad, I'm a bama


TC@URBANFLAVORZ.COM
AKA
TOMMIE COLLINS
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